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It’s more than statistics
It’s people.
It’s husbands, fathers, mothers, wives.
It’s children, sons, daughters.
It’s families, friends, co-workers.
It’s churches, ministries, the body of Christ.
Statistics only tell part of the story.
Statistics represent people you know.
• Chuck Swindoll calls it “The #1 secret problem in your church.”
• Of the 10,000 calls, emails and letters Focus on the Family receives daily, this represent their number one incoming request for help overall.
• New Man Magazine’s most frequent request from readers is to refer them to a service or ministry that can help them with their sexual temptation. “New Man readers NEED this product.” - from a New Man representative
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Find Freedom -- Glen A. Dry
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Every Man's Battle -- Arterburn & Stoeker
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Game Plan -- Dallas
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Every Young Man's Battle -- Arterburn & Stoeker
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Winning the War Within -- Charles Stanley
www.pkfamily.com
www.bebroken.com
www.joedallas.com
www.pureintimacy.org
www.bsafeonline.com
www.xxxchurch.com
www.pureonline.com
www.covenanteyes.com
WE RECEIVE NO COMPENSATION FOR HAVING THESE SITES LISTED...EVEN THOUGH I BELIEVE THAT AT SOME POINT IN YOUR MATURITY WITH CHRIST FILTERS AND ONLINE SAFEGUARDS ARE NOT NEEDED FOR THE MAN WHO HAS PUT A STAKE IN HIS SEXUAL INTEGRITY ISSUES AND HAS NO MORE ISSUES TO DEAL WITH ONLINE...IT IS A NO BRAINER FOR THE PROTECTION OF CHILDREN AND TO BUILD TRUST WITH A SPOUSE WHO WANTS TO RESTORE TRUST AND RESPECT IN THE MARRIAGE COVENANT
NOW WHAT?
Talk with God about your struggle …Hebrews 10:22
Receive God’s forgiveness …1 John 1:9
Seek Godly counsel … Proverbs 15:22
Engage in a men’s small group weekly ... Hebrews 10:25
Pray for a mentor/one on one discipleship ... Proverbs 27:17
Listen to Christian music ... Psalm 33:3
Never, never, never GIVE UP ... Philippians 3:13
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THE NUMBERS
97 Billion dollar industry
72 million visitors to adult web sites per month
70 % of men ages 18 to 34 visit porn sites in a typical month
20 % of internet porn involves children
50 % of divorces say excessive online porn was a factor
47 % of families say porn is a factor in their home
11 yrs old is the average age of first exposure to porn
90 % of children ages 8 to 16 have viewed online porn most while doing homework
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The Stages of Pornography: Why Porn Might Bring Down This Culture
Perhaps pornography, more than any other issue of today’s culture, has the greatest chance of bringing down the morals and values of this generation. Studies tell us that the greatest new users of pornography are twelve- to seventeen-year-old boys. The girls, however, are catching up. All the while, the multi-billion-dollar pornography industry is reaching into the souls of this generation and wreaking havoc. It is so powerful that it can snatch any kid in any house today.
A thirteen-year-old boy at our church was looking for a new baseball glove online. A large sporting-good chain in our area is called Chicks Sporting Goods. We all call it “Chicks” for short. He innocently typed the word “Chicks” into a search engine, thinking he was going to find the store’s new baseball glove collection. What he found were pornography sites, and plenty of them. His first exposure to porn took him on a journey that caused him to daily, sometimes for hours at a time, look at awful porn. This was a good kid, from a strong family, with high morals, and he just got caught in the maze of porn addiction. When the family found out (they began to suspect something when he was on the computer in the middle of the night and his grades were dropping), they did the right thing and got their son help. However, that young boy will have thousands of vivid images stored in his brain and subconscious.
One of the many problems of viewing pornography is that is that your mind takes a picture of the image. And sadly, millions of young people today have very inappropriate images stored in their minds. Pornography is extremely addicting, and for many it can escalate. Here are the stages of pornography addiction progression:
1. Viewing pornography
2. Addiction
3. Escalation
4. Desensitization
5. Action out sexually
In today’s world, kids cannot help but see very unhealthy sexual images. As youth workers, you can help kids see the negative consequences of viewing pornography.
Information on the effects of porn is very prevalent today. I don’t need to add much more on the subject, especially when you can find great resources if you are looking for this kind of information. Needless to say, pornography is fantasy. Fantasy and pornography are closely related links to sexual addiction. Pornography is a tool for going beyond reality, and, once used, it is difficult to live without. Sadly, sexual addiction among young people is growing, and for many, it becomes a strong obsessive compulsion similar to the intensity of alcohol, drug, and gambling addictions. Sexual addiction breaks families apart, causes people to view the opposite sex as objects, and tears at the very moral fiber of really good people. That’s why as youth workers, we must sound the alarm with our kids about pornography, clearly communicating to them about its dangers.
Further, with relatively little extra effort, you can help your church’s family deal with this issue. From sending an email to parents with information about the dangers of pornography to encouraging them to set clear boundaries at home related to computer use (such as not allowing kids to have Internet access in their bedrooms), you can be your church’s key resource person to parents as they try to help their kids navigate the pornography issue.
The days are over when pornography was confined to a dark section of town at XXX-rated movie theatres. Pornography is distributed through what was once safe channels, like cable TV, bookstores, phones, and of course, the Internet. As youth workers, we must be intentional to counter this influence with love, example, and instruction. Otherwise, someone else will teach our children about pornography, and the visual aids they might use may be so enticing that they lure our kids into a fantasy world full of guilt, shame, and remorse. Pornography is not safe, and we can’t assume our kids will never be tempted. Being proactive but not “preachy” or panicked is the best way for helping the students we serve. As the Scripture says, “Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life.”
Excerpted and adapted from Teaching Your Children Healthy Sexuality by Jim Burns.